But anyway.
(Not as ranty as yc - apparently he has a lot of pent up woes.)
Fast forward.
I've been out with so many guys. Okay, not THAT many - I'm not aiming to score some record.
Sad thing is, most of them don't text or call when we part.
REALLY.
Really? That's not what happens in the movies y'know! At least not those I watch. Maybe those you watch, people get killed. I d'no. In MY movies, the guys actually text/call/some kind of communication after the date. I cannot tell you how sweet that is! -tear- Kidding... about the tear.
Hey, it's sweet! It shows that he cares enough about you and not just like, wanted to go out with a girl (because it's good fengshui to?)
I've heard... that guys need space. They don't want clingy, needy girls who text every day or expect a call. Look, I don't even say "Call me!" or "See you soon!" because I am giving you guys space.
That said, you could bother to experiment within that space and you know, maybe, giving a suggestion here, just text something like "did you get home safely? I had fun"...
uh okay, I felt like barfing when I wrote that. (If I'm replying you, it means I reached home safely or maybe "I GOT FREAKING MUGGED! I had fun too :)")
Not that that can't happen... Just saying.
If you want space, I'm giving you space. Or wait, is it not space you want? Do you want intense clingyness? Like, I have to text to say something like "I really enjoyed ..." okay, couldn't continue that sentence. Fingers burn.
Or purr over the phone - What do people say? Or purr for that matter. Something along the lines of I miss you.
That's wrong right? Something you don't say on a first date. I d'no. Maybe you do? If you really like the guy?
While watching Friends With Benefits, I was hit by a minor case of blues. Guys who rise up to your dating challenge, just to win you over then leave. TRUTH.
A guy who realises that you're the one and he can't just ignore his gut feeling anymore - Have not encountered.
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Is that not depressing?
Why isn't life like these romcoms? Nobody has yet felt an epiphany. I've had plenty of cannot live without you episodes but I guess it's a natural mechanism for me. I'm still alive now.
Is it so hard to drop a message? You don't even have to call! And now, there's Whatsapp. It's really no excuse. Sigh. Know what? Maybe those guys just like the feeling of going out with a girl. Any girl. Random girl. And she just so happens to be me. On that day.
Pffft.
And so, the pure ritual of dinner, movies, whatever else, is good enough for them. End of date is when you say good bye. AND THAT'S IT. No follow-up action. And random girl i.e. me, is just silly enough to be that random girl.
Really... is it a great feeling to go out and spend money on a girl? And then want nothing?
Okay, to your credit(s), that is quite amazing.
Usually guys want something... My mum always say there's no free meal in the world.
She's wrong.
Or maybe I've had too many free meals hence KARMA. Cursed to be alone forever.
I know it's strange to say this but I feel differently about "Nothing happened!"
D'no about you. Maybe you're glad? I feel more of 无奈. Haha.
So yea, I can't help but lose faith in relationships. It's like so unfortunate to go out and then get treated like, nothing.
It really irks me and I hate myself for it. I don't know why I do it. Maybe I can pretend to feel loved for that couple of hours? Having that company, having someone who is/pretends to be interested in my life. It's nice when you're me.
Back to that space topic. Look, I don't even attempt to communicate the next day. It's like, fine if you don't look for me. FINE. Even though it totally sucks, I'm not going to hound you and be all "Why didn't you call! Don't you miss me?" I know the answer is no so I don't need that patronising.
It's like the guys get this temporary amnesia. After some time, they'll suddenly remember me and act all friendly like "How have you been! Haven't seen you in a long time..."
I've been y'know, having a life. And of course, considering that you've been blocking me, it's no wonder that you haven't seen me. *rolls eyes*
Don't call me a cynic; I KNOW it happens.
For some reason, I d'no why it happens. Apparently that space you need includes blocking.
Sigh. Why do I allow myself to get stuck in such fucked up situations? I should just keep an open mind and wipe all traces of 'develop this further' from my mind. Why do I think guys want to date me? I d'no what they hope to achieve with me since obviously, they don't seem to want anything.
I should just forget about them ever calling after a date. Guess what! Life isn't like the movies. There's no happily ever after. The one you fall so hard for would never like you in that way. That's just how it is. It's always a case of someone liking you more than you like them or you liking someone else more than he likes you. Choice, people, choice. Is it possible to be truly happy? I d'no. I really don't.
For now, I think not.
And for the record, I'm not giving up on love because guys don't call/text after a date.
SERIOUSLY. It's a slew of factors. This is already the watered-down version aka official press release.
And also for the record, it's not that I don't have guys sending me home or texting post-date.
I just didn't like them as much hence, it was more scary than sweet.
Aiight, I guess I deserve my lot in life then. I'm a bitch who doesn't treasure the good guys in my life. But hey, you deserve a sweeter girl than someone so horrid like me. You're better off without me.
Horrible girls get stuck with the jerks who treat them like dirt.
Hey, karma at its best!
P.S. I am looking for a nice guy. He doesn't have to be rich or goodlooking or drives a nice car or takes me out to dinners at atas places.
I haven't found someone like that. There are guys like that whom I think make really good bfs. I won't say who and I don't intend to be a bf-stealer anyway. They're too good to be stolen I'm sure.
Oh well. There goes happily ever after.
I'm so used to this that I don't think I experience any heart break anymore.
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