Right.
-defensive- I like the song!
Not so much Judas though I'm quite sure it'll grow on me in no time.
Haven't blogged in a bit but spamming twitter. I guess twitter's fun when you follow interesting people.
Thoughts:
Competition/rivalry can be healthy. I find that we tend to push ourselves to achieve more when we have a benchmark in mind or a rival to beat. Okay, by we, I mean me. As usual.
In school, there would be that girl getting 1st every exam whom you'd just love to dethrone. Sorry ah, that girl was always me so can't really relate :)
What subsequently happened? Well... Things happen.
For me, it would be how to maintain my position and of course rivals would be those in 2nd and 3rd place and those who claim they will do better than me. Competition- check. Fear of losing- check. Motivation- check. Not exactly the kind of positive motivation that's advocated but nonetheless, there's a drive.
What am I getting at? Your environment and your attitude are both contributing factors to whether you want to succeed. Or simply better yourself.
Firstly, environment. If you're with a bunch of not too clever people, your benchmark/level of competition is lower. You might be the best but find that you're eaten alive when you step out into society. Don't you need better competition to challenge your abilities?
Secondly, personal attitude. If you're complacent or simply blasé, you won't feel the need to do anything about the status quo. While every one else is moving ahead, you'll gradually fall back.
Why am I saying this? I'm concerned. I find that he's setting too low a benchmark and comparing with lesser peers. You outshine your equals and those superior. You can't just aim for the lowest rung and settle for that. Haven't you heard? Aim for the moon and fall among the stars if you don't succeed. Aim for the nearest branch and fall back on the ground when you fail.
Always aim higher.
I have a benchmark in mind. It's not my aim to simply be on par. It would be so much more satisfying to do better. There might be other worthier benchmarks but I'm currently not aware so...
For the record, I take what I hear with a pinch of salt. Gushing reviews- they irritate me because "am I that inferior? Is that person that good?" I want to top that. Even more so when I, personally, am not impressed.
Just happened to hear that this person whom I thought was pretty zai, didn't do too well. Not my benchmark but thought he'd do better than me.
There's pros and cons to being high profile and good. (Why would you want to be high profile and chui?) More people know you're good and want a piece of you. There's only that much of you to go around. Sure, recognition. If those kinda things float your boat.
Being low profile otoh, I don't mean being sneaky and scheming, saves you some trouble. Less pressure, still able to smile stupidly and say "I don't know; I've never done it before!" without shame.
And there are people who dislike overachievers. They practically have a mark over your head.
Just vaguely say "Average" and be done with it. Unless it's a matter of defending your honor.
Lastly, I'm saying have an aim. For that, you'll probably need a benchmark as a gauge. But there is no need to be rude, aggressive or sneaky when you compete. Know that people dislike outrightly competitive people. Why parrot "I win!" every chance you get? Like, whatever. Character-wise: Epic loser.
Don't rush to compare every little thing. There is a stage in life when these things are not supposed to matter outwardly. It can matter like hell in your heart but don't show it. If someone asks, Fine. If no one asks, nobody cares. If you chuied, they will be amused and attempt to empathize. Note no one will bitch. Otoh if you succeeded, they will bitch. Humans are jealous creatures. Even if you had the purest of intentions, they would still doubt.
Like now, even if I say this is not about you, you would be second-guessing my intentions. Thoughts could be interpreted as bitching/claws-sharpening/self-promotion session.
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